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Sun Sep 21, 2008 1:06 am |
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What is a sociopath.. answer by a sociopath, interesting
We all know the psych definitons of a sociopath and there are also many physiological matches to them as well. Most though are the criminal ones. I have not read as good a definition as this by a sociopath who is not a criminal before. it was posted on ctv by someoen who said they would rather have a terminal illness and i have to agree
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_causes_a_person_to_be_a_sociopath
| Quote: | As a much scrutinized and poorly represented sociopath, I will try to add to the pool of 'knowledge' from the point of view that no-one trusts. Just so you know what my motive is (because we are all self-serving of course), it is to educate a few extra people into creating a few less serial killers.
Think of sociopaths as dogs. Our nature is to live in the now, respect our pack, protect our young, and pee on your carpet if you don't let us out on time. You can have a good dog, or you can have a bad dog... a lot depends on if you love the dog, cuddle the dog, or stuff it in a bag and drop it on the freeway.
Some dogs are predisposed to be more unpredictable (Chow) and some are laid back (Golden). But you can still have a nice Chow or a viscous Golden.
The last writer has a fairly accurate definition, but only in what we are capable of in the poorly adapted versions. You have to remember that approximately 1 in 25 males and 1 in 200 females are sociopaths. Some of us live pretty normal lives.
I am a primarily self-destructive sociopath... most things I do come off as 'a little off', odd, or reckless. At 31, and a single mother of a 15 year old girl, I have experienced (screwed up) enough to have a knowledge bank of expected behavior and responses. Most things I have to make a very concious effort as to what my action should be. I don't have the natural emotion filter built in.
My natural decision making skill almost doesn't exist. As well as self-dicipline, and foresight. I have tried to train myself to not make a decision if I am unsure of the 'safe' or 'human' version. This has extended into all my decisions... so grocery shopping is sometimes a nightmare.
When I do make decisions without referring to my extensive list of life rules, they tend to be in situations I haven't encountered. These decisions feel more like they already have an answer... and I just follow along. These are the scary ones. I am there 100%, but I am still kind of along for the ride. i.e. Smart girl does stupid things.
In my opinion, having a very low-key childhood, an extremely reserved but not over-reactive single mother, and a mild manner by nature have provided the best grounding possible for this condition. I have also been an avid reader and people watcher my entire life. This helps build my "possible scenarios" databank.
I spun out for a while after having my daughter at 16, but made a effort to buckle down and not ruin her too. Maternal instinct seems to be spanning some of the void, but not entirely. Most of the mothering I do is because I decided this was something I wasn't going to mess up. I'm pretty bad at the normal side of mothering, but I am very close to my daughter and very protective (think of the dog again). That we can talk about anything makes up for a lot of gaps in my parenting technique.
We joke with our exchanges of affection - I say "I love you sort of" and she says "I love you more"! I have explained it to her as a disability which I have to substitute pseudo emotions (combinations of existing emotions and knowledge base). I have also told her that I need lots of extra hugs to keep from "going crazy the rest of the way". We are writing a book together about the experience.
If anyone ever tried to do harm to her and I was present, I have no doubts that I would be able to kill them and feel nothing for the person. My emotions would only be regarding the punishment for the crime. If anything ever happened to her, I would have serious grounding issues and would be very likely to become a self-serving criminal sort. She is what keeps me from giving up the farce and doing whatever suits.
Humans with pack animal emotions are dangerous because of the complexity of human life. It is a ladder climbing, back stabbing, social structure and without moral restrictions the sky is the limit. Rejection, ridicule, and loneliness are extreme negative influences on sociopaths. Bitter sociopaths turn inward and stop trying to live with 'normal' people. They have played along nicely their whole lives even though it was much harder, less profitable, and less gratifying. Now they can justify their actions because they are the victims.
So next time you snub somebody, stand somebody up, make fun of anything... You are breaking the 'being a nice person' rules of life. If you can do it - the sociopath can do it easier and more memorably.
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| victims cry
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Sun Sep 21, 2008 1:09 am |
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just want to add that comments and responses to them also have really interesting insight.
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| gwen
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Sun Sep 21, 2008 1:49 am |
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Wow - Very interesting. Excellent analogy with the chow and lab.
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| Isanah
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Sun Sep 21, 2008 2:57 pm |
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TY VC. That was fascinating. I've never felt "normal" either, but I wouldn't take it that far!!! I bet there are more interesting stuff on that blog, I'm afraid to look though! 
That must explain why I don't do the crying as some on these forums do about any of these cases! 
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| victims cry
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Thu Sep 25, 2008 11:25 pm |
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lol isanah
Actually i dont understand or do the crying in many cases either. I do get morally outraged which is different.
I posted it because to me .. it all made sense. I have never looked at a sociopaths crimes in the same way we normal ppl do. They normally are completely understandable if you wipe your own feelings away and understand the perps feelings.
A poster on IS shared a story from where she was a prison nurse. The man had been put in prison for a parole violation, he beat up another guy almost to death. Sadly the victims toddler daughter witnessed it. When the prisoner was telling her the reason why he should not be back in jail, saw her reaction to the child watching her dad beaing beaten...not positive... he said something like "oh no nurse, don't worry, if i had killed him i would have killed her too because its to much for a child to live through especially a little girl. I had guns so it would be quick"
Its a very different mindset where you set someones mind at ease about your humanity and caring by telling them you would kill the child.
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