Fuckin' Up

[justamom]

justamom, all visible traces of my kids are gone from my house now. No more messes, clothes, toys, color books, crayons, makeup, rollers, boxing gloves, baseball bats, footballs, etc.

All I have are the great memories, phone calls when they think to call, and sporadic visits back home to be 'babied' once again.

I'm glad you've learned to enjoy the visible traces of your kids. Soon enough, they will be gone and your house will be empty of their lives.

Oh I know. My oldest is 17 and pregnant
Shes going to be moved out with her own baby in a yr
My youngest is 18 months old. I really do appreciate the littler ones more then I did the older ones now that I see how fast they grow. Its hard watching them grow up and wonder if you prepared them enough for the real world, and to realize they will make painful mistakes as my daughter has and is doing. I guess thats another fuck up in my pocket

[riff]

A friend at lunch today said that bearing resentment is like wanting to poison someone else yet poisoning yourself instead. I do that, and it's really stupid.

This is such a great line. I do this too, not as much as I used to though.

[pax]

justamom, all visible traces of my kids are gone from my house now. No more messes, clothes, toys, color books, crayons, makeup, rollers, boxing gloves, baseball bats, footballs, etc.

All I have are the great memories, phone calls when they think to call, and sporadic visits back home to be 'babied' once again.

I'm glad you've learned to enjoy the visible traces of your kids. Soon enough, they will be gone and your house will be empty of their lives.

Oh I know. My oldest is 17 and pregnant
Shes going to be moved out with her own baby in a yr
My youngest is 18 months old. I really do appreciate the littler ones more then I did the older ones now that I see how fast they grow. Its hard watching them grow up and wonder if you prepared them enough for the real world, and to realize they will make painful mistakes as my daughter has and is doing. I guess thats another fuck up in my pocket

I hope the kids will own up to them as their fuck ups, not yours.

[pax]

A friend at lunch today said that bearing resentment is like wanting to poison someone else yet poisoning yourself instead. I do that, and it's really stupid.

This is such a great line. I do this too, not as much as I used to though.

Same here! Growing older can make one more mellow, and I love that.

[amanda]

justamom, all visible traces of my kids are gone from my house now. No more messes, clothes, toys, color books, crayons, makeup, rollers, boxing gloves, baseball bats, footballs, etc.

All I have are the great memories, phone calls when they think to call, and sporadic visits back home to be 'babied' once again.

I'm glad you've learned to enjoy the visible traces of your kids. Soon enough, they will be gone and your house will be empty of their lives.

Oh I know. My oldest is 17 and pregnant
Shes going to be moved out with her own baby in a yr
My youngest is 18 months old. I really do appreciate the littler ones more then I did the older ones now that I see how fast they grow. Its hard watching them grow up and wonder if you prepared them enough for the real world, and to realize they will make painful mistakes as my daughter has and is doing. I guess thats another fuck up in my pocket

I hope the kids will own up to them as their fuck ups, not yours.

A big thank you to justamom and pax. I was surely starting to think I was invisible on the front page. Every day I would hurry to see if someone responded and today TWO of you did!

Happy Friday and Weekend to you both.

[Fashionista]

A big thank you to justamom and pax. I was surely starting to think I was invisible on the front page. Every day I would hurry to see if someone responded and today TWO of you did!

Happy Friday and Weekend to you both.

Awwwwwwww Amanda

[pax]

You're quite welcome, Amanda. Hope you have a wonderful weekend, too.

[BhamMom]

I always kick my butt for getting married and then I look at my kids and think those 14 years of misery was worth it.

[Zrinyi]

I dont fuck up, everybody else does.

[pax]

:? I dont fuck up, everybody else does.

Ha ha! In Spanish, they don't say "I lost the soccer ball." It's "The soccer ball lost itself to me."

[bamuda]

I think I screw up every waking hour.
It could be something I said,
something I did or did not do,
something I wrote.

As long as you are alive,
I guess you have another chance to make things right.
My Dad always said if you are not making mistakes, you are not learning.
I learn something new everyday.

[pax]

Bamuda, I think your dad was quite right about that. A long time ago I read a book by Gail Sheehy called Pathfinders. She interviewed people from all walks of life who were successful at something. She found one thing they shared: they had suffered enormous failures and were unafraid to keep trying.

[likestoflap-lol]

sometimes its hard to not have the last word. then i want to explain why -just gets worst. then i write nice little hallmark kind of card and send it saying sorry. this only happens in one topic---my ex! as its hard to seperate my love for entire family of the past include ex- from my kids. they do not want to take sides and are now adults. it happened last week-a discussion turned into hard feeling as i did not want to hear my ex knew my buisness and told kids that. they said its not about you if i talk about stuff with dad--i said just dont let it be about me with him. a little hard feelings --some tears from me -and then i spend all day feeling bad i had last words. i send the card and try to say why i was upset but i still love the kids and then i wait to see the reaction. i want to reverse all the hurt feeling yet i feel i fucked up by not keeping my mouth shut . i feel i am right but do not want to hurt my kids either. life goes on. they eventually say -i know mom-lol

[pax]

Ha ha, LTF, I know what you mean!

Probably hearing "I know mom" from your kids makes you feel better.

[likestoflap-lol]

Ha ha, LTF, I know what you mean!

Probably hearing "I know mom" from your kids makes you feel better.

well, thanks pax for trying to humor me-lol. sometimes the i know is this--i know you can not shut up mom-i know you always bring up dad when i am around--i know you love me but you drive us crazy --so sometimes i know mom is not a compliment to me either i will survive it -haha

[hisss]

I always kick my butt for getting married and then I look at my kids and think those 14 years of misery was worth it.

I look at my son and wish I could have had him without getting married.

[pax]

Ha ha, LTF, I know what you mean!

Probably hearing "I know mom" from your kids makes you feel better.

well, thanks pax for trying to humor me-lol. sometimes the i know is this--i know you can not shut up mom-i know you always bring up dad when i am around--i know you love me but you drive us crazy --so sometimes i know mom is not a compliment to me either i will survive it -haha

Kids. Can't live with them, can't shoot them.

[likestoflap-lol]

Ha ha, LTF, I know what you mean!

Probably hearing "I know mom" from your kids makes you feel better.

well, thanks pax for trying to humor me-lol. sometimes the i know is this--i know you can not shut up mom-i know you always bring up dad when i am around--i know you love me but you drive us crazy --so sometimes i know mom is not a compliment to me either i will survive it -haha

Kids. Can't live with them, can't shoot them.

they live on their own-still sitting at the kitchen table talking for hours brings out some things that turn into some discussions that i wish i did not flap about

[DivaToo]

Ha ha, LTF, I know what you mean!

Probably hearing "I know mom" from your kids makes you feel better.

well, thanks pax for trying to humor me-lol. sometimes the i know is this--i know you can not shut up mom-i know you always bring up dad when i am around--i know you love me but you drive us crazy --so sometimes i know mom is not a compliment to me either i will survive it -haha

Kids. Can't live with them, can't shoot them.

LOL... duct tape

[justamom]

Velcro would work better. I think we should have velcro rooms for kids. The adhesive part on the walls, the other on the kids clothes. Then when they run and jump they get stuck.

[pax]

Velcro would work better. I think we should have velcro rooms for kids. The adhesive part on the walls, the other on the kids clothes. Then when they run and jump they get stuck.

And where I live, they can be gotten down by playing a game of pinatas. Fun for all.

[DivaToo]

Velcro would work better. I think we should have velcro rooms for kids. The adhesive part on the walls, the other on the kids clothes. Then when they run and jump they get stuck.

And where I live, they can be gotten down by playing a game of pinatas. Fun for all.

Last time my guy & I were out at a restraunt.. I said "Honey, get the duct tape" And I MEANT it

[BhamMom]

I always kick my butt for getting married and then I look at my kids and think those 14 years of misery was worth it.

I look at my son and wish I could have had him without getting married.

Hiss, you could have done that. For all practical purposes I have been a "single" mom since the day my children were born. The strange thing about that was, I was married. Go figure.